So, for about five years now I have lived by this mantra, you spot it, you got it! ( first saw it on Oprah via Martha Beck, many years ago) The qualities of others that are annoying to you, (there’s none, right?) are really just a reflection of you. I use to be a horrible nag, especially in my marriage, until I realized his qualities that annoyed me, were the qualities that annoyed me about myself & its so much easier to focus on others. Right? Example, I use to hound my husband about being to laid back…Well, that’s ME!..and totally annoying..but much easier to focus on his inability. I can’t stand those who coddle their kids, but mine are royalty. Please take a minute or twenty and read about it…profound changes for me. This philosophy has given me tons of peace in my marriage and external relationships. The people who annoy you most, offer the most lessons for growth…real growth!