Taking a moment to reflect on a good chunk of time off Facebook. It was good, however it is impossible to have any idea what is going on with those near and far without this required network. The disconnect period was AMAZING. I completely forgot about networking..my phone died regularly. It was wonderful. I guess we go through times when we need to put things in perspective and go into solitude. I just went through that. Since I came out of this solitary freedom Ive had amazing connections with people. Its as if all the social anxiety and projection melted away. Suddenly, I was coming in contact with many others who seem to need the same disconnect but haven’t realized it. I have also spoken with a few who have never joined. My point is, face to face contact is amazing. I love that personal interaction. Although FB can certainly keep us in touch and in the loop, it could never replace the significance of a face to face exchange. You can blog your heart away to a million people that matter nothing or Status others to death with what your thinking, feeling or eating. These exchanges are a fool’s gold compared to being vulnerable and present to the one’s you love or the people you randomly have chances to exchange thoughts and ideas with in a face to face situation when you can look at them and feel their energy.
Being in the thirties is so weird. Many of us are doing the family thing with kids and many of us aren’t. It can be hard to relate to one anothers challenges and life experiences. We all took different paths at some point during our past 10 or so years Some have been educated in the homelife and others have been educated in schools. I have dear friends who are in completely different living situations. I love getting their perspective in the adolescence of our adulthood. We have something in common. We all act like we know something and we all know little. I think real wisdom comes in the fourth decade. Until then, we are all surviving and hoping for the best after we exit our twenties. If we have escaped our twenties with any wisdom, which comes from dramatic and hard experiences..we’re bound to have some!..then mabe we feel entitled to spurt some wisdom. Perhaps it is our “responsibilty” to say we walked through the knee deep snow to school..Or perhaps, we are here to tell the next generation, our children or someone else, that we know life is difficult. Twenties are a time to find yourself and thirties are a time to act like you found yourself. Truth is, we all need to do some more growing. A lot of deeper stuff happens in the late thirties and forties. I believe this is where wisdom lies. We may have lived half our life at this point. Many have endured divorce, chronic loneliness, or pursuing a path that landed them in a place they don’t like. Here is true wisdom. Suffering and toil brings us wisdom worth sharing. We can spout off random advice or wisdom now but it is plastic because we have to endure more. Once we go through real turmoil we can advise others, especially kids. Before then we need to understand that we are in our trying times and we should beware to project our trials on others. We are baby adults and we need to be careful examples..because we just left the infancy of adulthood. Kids listen to us.